A Homeschooler’s Identity

Recently I’ve had the privilege of starting to teach a Sunday School class on Paul’s Epistle to the Romans. All the snow in these parts has kept me from continuing to teach the class. But at least I started. :-)

One of Paul’s central concerns in the Epistle to the Romans is to help his Jewish and Gentile brothers and sisters in Rome get along with each other. Evidently they had been living as if they belonged to two different families — as if they had two different identities.

Paul wants them to see that if the Gospel is true, then they all have a new identity as part of the same family.

This got me thinking about what people do to establish their identities. How many ways are there of declaring who and what you are?

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Some people identify themselves using their clothes. (Maybe everyone does, actually.) They implicitly or explicitly announce their opinions about music, business, politics, religion, art, society, and life in general by dressing in certain ways.

They tell you who they are and what they value by what they decide to put on, how they decide to put it on, and/or what they decide to leave off.

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Other people identify themselves using their bodies. (Maybe everyone does, actually.) They cut their hair a certain way — or don’t cut it at all. They tattoo themselves so that their identity as a fan of this or that, or as loving someone or other is permanently clear to everyone. They work out, or don’t, to show the world who they are, what they stand for, what they value.

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Other people identify themselves through the activities they participate in. They attend certain meetings regularly. They go on certain trips regularly. They eat certain foods or drink certain beverages regularly. They frequent certain stores and restaurants, they read certain books, they watch certain television shows.

Each activity helps them identify themselves as belonging to the group of people who participate in the same activity — and each activity is, in part, their way of announcing to the world that they are the kind of person who participates in that activity.

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Identity-establishing, identity-reinforcing, and identity-announcing things are important for us as humans.

If you’re a human, Heidegger said, then you’re the kind of being whose being is an issue for itself. In other words, to be human is to be the kind of thing that wonders and worries and makes decisions about what kind of thing it is.

That means we have to know who we are — each of us has to understand her or his own identity.

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But Heidegger also said that to be a human means to be with other humans — even when those other humans aren’t actually present.

Dasein,” he said, is “Mitsein.” “Being-there” is “Being-with,” even when there’s no one else there to be with.

When there’s no one else there, we feel it; when we are alone, we are being-with no one.

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This means it is important that we be able to identify ourselves to and for each other. It’s not enough that we understand our own identities. We also need other people to be able to identify us too — and to identify us accurately.

There’s nothing worse than being misidentified — than being taken for something or someone you’re not.

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So here’s some questions I’m pondering:

What forms the identity of a homeschooler?

What does a homeschooler need to do in order to identify him- or herself (to him- or herself and to others) as a homeschooler?

What, in fact, do homeschoolers do in order to establish, reinforce, or announce their identities as homeschoolers?

What parts of what homeschoolers do to establish, reinforce, or announce their identities as homeschoolers are helpful and healthy? And are there any parts of what homeschoolers do to establish, reinforce, or announce their identities as homeschoolers that are either superfluous or detrimental?

Finally, what, if anything, should homeschoolers do to help non-homeschoolers understand what it means to be a homeschooler, so that non-homeschoolers don’t misidentify homeschoolers?

(I, for instance, think that “homeschooler” is an identity worth celebrating — and worth not only understanding, but helping other people to understand. But how?)

-Micah Tillman

[Micah is a Mt. Sophia graduate who is working on his doctoral dissertation at The Catholic University of America. He also gets to teach philosophy (as a "graduate fellow"), which he loves.]

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One Response to “A Homeschooler’s Identity”

  1. Of course, there are lots of different flavors of homeschoolers and the image have changed over time. (I can remember the day when every good homeschool mom wore denim jumpers!)

    These days, I would like to imagine that our identity is established by our passions- for Christ, family, education (and for Mt. Sophia folks- culture changing).

    The identity of clothes: cool but honoring to self and others.
    The identity of body: the temple of the Holy Spirit and hopefully treated as such.
    The identity of activities: those that bring us together to deepen our faith, maximize our potentials, have some fun and “Change the Culture”.

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